Are We Only Attracted to the Ones Who Are the Opposite of Our Personalities?

Attraction or Settling Down?

Have you ever wonder and look back to all those people who got attracted to you, for example let us say, all or most of your ex-es, do all of them came in a pattern?

Sometimes I wonder, is it just me who always got attracted to them, I meant this ‘species’ or they are also strongly attracted to me? I can’t deny that an obvious inheritance personality that I got from my parents is that I can be really bad tempered sometimes. Anyway I am proud of myself as I have improved a lot on my level of anger management...hahahaha...comparing to both of my hot-tempered parents (especially when they were young as I remember).

But yeah...have to admit that although my mom and dad were toughed on us, they were both very loving and willingly to sacrifice anything for their children. Love them two very much!

Okay, back to the topic. I found out that all of my ex-es, or people that I felt strongly attached even as scandals, are the ones who are much much cooler than me. I definitely would have to label myself as ‘fire’ (as most of the Aquarians are I believe), and these people that I myself sometimes found them to be really attractive (besides their physicals), usually are the ‘waters’.


I am the person that when I am really really mad and piss off, I can scream and mumble for a period of time non-stop to the other person (sometimes I wanted to laugh at myself when I think back). If a situation is occurred, I always prefer to talk, discuss and come to face with it up front fearlessly. Therefore if a person prefer to let a problem just settled by itself by keeping quiet, neglect the issue, pretend everything is okay really gonna boils me up. Hahahahaha.....

And I am surprised that those who are attracted to me are the ones who are either going to lower down their voices when I am mad, pet gently behind my back and asked me to be patient and relax, keep quiet while I let everything out from my chest and sometimes were smiling looking at me when I was mumbling. Well the ones who were smiling with their cynicism look of course I hated them but all of my ex-es, they were so cute as they smiled at me because they knew that is who I am when I’m cranky.


I don’t know why, usually when I started to get attached with someone emotionally, I will try to reject this person by nature with all sort of weird angriness just to protect myself from getting hurt. I don’t believe in a long term relationship because I’m pretty sure that it will all end up in the same epilogue. So I rise up my expectation, I lean a lot on this person and if something goes wrong, usually I will explode. All of my ex-es are the ones who passed the tests. And if a person can’t stand all these, I will have a reason not to further our relationship and protect myself from falling in love, therefore my emotion will be saved. How peculiar is that??

Every now and then I wonder, just these people that I am attracted to stand by me just because they feel that I am hard to get, and once they got me they wanted to have me for a long time no matter with all the fuss and craziness or do they actually feel attracted to my temperamental quirkiness?

Have you guys ever wondered that? Do all of your ex-es and scandals come in a pattern?

And if they do, can it be broken?

Have you ever imagine what if your magnetism just kept on attracting all those losers and people who just see you as a person that they can play your heart with, use you only for sex maybe or just keep you as a reserve until he or she found someone better?


If you look back at your previous lovers and most of them were on a pattern especially as horribly as this, can the pattern be broken? Is it you that need to change your style and personality or what you have to do is just to change your eyes perspective and taste?

Is it really true where legend says that you will only got attracted to a person who is the opposite of your personality? If that so, what is the main reason?

Is it because we admire something which does not exist inside ourselves? Is it because we adore something that we can never be? Or is it because we envy a character or personality that we can never become and possess no matter how hard we try?

Are these all the reasons why we always got attracted to the person who is the opposite of our personalities and characters?

Do we really get attracted to all these antonyms or do we just settle down with them because we knew that these people are the ones that might be able to stay with us for a long time?


A person who talks a lot eventually realize that he or she needs to be with some who is quieter than him or her and similarly a person who doesn't want to talk a lot will want to be with a person who probably would fill most of the dead air.

Is it an attraction or just a settling down?

-Alvy-